We think that kids are small and they don't understand anything, but this is not the case. Mental Health Counsellor and Author from Ranchi, Manveer Kaur Anand highlighted that kids silently absorb emotions far more than adults realize. According to Manveer Anand Kaur, the atmosphere at home plays a huge role in shaping the emotional relationship, future, confidence, and emotional well-being of a child.
Even if parents have conflicts in their relationship, they still stay together for their child's sake. While this intention might come from a place of constant tension, emotional distance, or an unhealthy relationship between parents, it has a lasting impact on emotional and mental well-being.
Kids never express their feelings easily; instead, they silently listen and watch and absorb everything happening around them. When a kid grows up in an environment filled with fights, unresolved conflict, or stress, they might develop anxiety, trust problems, emotional insecurities, or fear of relationships. They create their own coping mechanism to overcome this burden that they carry till their teenage years or even their entire lives in some cases.
Mental health counsellor and Author of the book, True I False I often encounter children who connect their relationship fears to their childhood traumas. Many kids admit that their parents were unhappy in their relationship, and that's the reason why they don't wish to get married or avoid committed relationships, as I witnessed constant parent's fight at home. This belief system is rooted in kids because of observing unhealthy relationship patterns during childhood.
This doesn't mean that parents should have a perfect relationship. Arguments are a part of life, but as responsible parent, they should take care to manage conflicts naturally and avoid arguments in front of their kids. This shows emotional regulation, communication, and respect that teaches kids valuable life skills.
Manveer Kaur Anand suggests that in case of a toxic or highly strained relationship, it is not the healthiest choice to stay together. At times, a peaceful separation will offer a more emotionally stable space for kids than a home filled with constant fights. Mental Health Counsellor and Founder of Impressions Positive Impact: kids learn from what they live. Parents must create a healthy space for their kid's mental and emotional well-being, future relationships, and self-worth.
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